The most important, basic universal truth is – we create our reality – absolutely. You are not powerless over your current situation. If you pay attention, you will realize how you create your own reality, how you re-create the same stories (with different players), how you sabotage your life, how you make choices based on erroneous beliefs that you are not enough, not worthy, and not deserving.
To create the life you desire you need to understand that there are universal laws in place. The -Universal Law of Attraction- is one of the laws that determines how we create our reality. Subconscious thoughts, the storehouse of memories, directly create our current reality. The subconscious takes the information it gets from the conscious Mind and makes it real (your thoughts, words, actions, and images). It takes the information you focus on (where you put your attention and place your energy) and draws into your life experiences to match those thoughts. Much to your disappointment, your subconscious DOES NOT distinguish between negative and positive. It is the “Ultimate Yes-Man” and has no sense of humor. It takes everything literally. That is why you even need to be mindful of joking, making fun of yourself, and putting yourself down.
Another very crucial element to creating your reality is that the words you choose make a big difference. For instance, using the words worry and concern,suggest that your thoughts and emotions are focused on the possibility of an undesirable result. Your focus, where you choose to place your attention, adds to that potential. There is a recognizable difference in saying “I am worried or concerned about something or someone” as opposed to saying that “what comes up for me about this is…” Instead of using the words right and wrongto define an experience use, “what works for me…” or “what doesn’t work for me.” These substitute words move you away from a perception filled with judgment. Accordingly, deciding whether a thought, feeling, behavior, or experience is loving or unloving for you, is quite different than judging it asgood or bad. You are responsible for your choices. Therefore, when challenges arise, choosing the posture of observing and accepting as opposed to reacting from your judgmental beliefs allows you to “live in” this world and no longer be“part of” the dramas and chaos.